How To Stop Worrying About What Other People Think

How To Stop Worrying About What Other People Think

Focus on your why!

Have you ever felt really excited and enthusiastic about a new project only to find that a few weeks into it, the self doubt and paranoia starts to kick in!

Yep, that little voice on your shoulder starts to whisper thoughts of negativity such as:

"what will my friends and family think?"

At the beginning of this year I decided that I would start blogging again and take it seriously this time (as in the past it was more of a hobby rather than a real project) and that applied to my youtube channel too but thoughts of doubt would creep up such as,

"what if they find my posts and videos silly or boring?" 

or

"what if they think that I'm embarrassing myself by even trying..?"

You can feel so vulnerable putting yourself out there as anyone and everyone have the chance to criticise you and publically too! Oh the embarrassment!! Starting from the bottom with a small following and very few followers on your social media platforms, is a little daunting but we all have to start somewhere and according to a lot of entrepreneurs and successful business men and women that I have researched on, they say that working your way up to the top can be a very rewarding process.

Anyway all of that being said, I am still determined to try and you should too!! 

Here is how I continue to keep going despite Mr negativity's whispers!

I remind myself to focus on my WHY!

Here are my top 9 reasons Why:

  • I'm living my life for myself and my children and no one else!
  • I genuinely enjoy and feel passionate about what I am doing and if there is a chance at making a success out of my passion, then it is worth giving it a try!
  • People may just actually like my content (and not laugh at it…)
  • I may be of great help to other mums out there! That alone is something very rewarding!
  • You only live once! I'd rather try and fail than never try at all and then have to live with the regret
  • I have let opportunities pass me by in the past and I refuse to let that happen again!!
  • I want to inspire my children to TRY anything and everything – to just go for it!!
  • The internet offers a world of opportunity, so I would be a fool not to try
  • It's something fun to do with my children!

Obviously these are my personal lists of reasons but I'm guessing that some of these may also apply to you too..?!

Having a project of my own gives me a sense of purpose (outside of being a mum which I honestly feel is the best job in the world) and allows me to use my creativity. It makes me happy and I feel productive. And happiness is what we all strive for isn't it..?!

You all know that I am a big believer of being persistently happy and my projects are something that me and my kids can work on together and achieve a great sense of happiness because of it!

So the next time that I have a moment of self doubt, I will focus on my reasons why I am doing what I am doing by referring back to this list, save this link and use it for yourself if ever you need a gentle reminder too!

Feel free to add any of your reasons why, in the comments section below, that you think I have missed out and may find useful!!

Thanks for reading ☺️

Layonie Jae x

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Life as a single full time working mum

Life as a single full time working mum

My Thoughts – Positive Self Talk

Typical work day routine:

Wake up at 6am and get ready for work whilst constantly nagging the kids to get ready for school, rush your breakfast, kids rush theirs, feeling guilty you even rush conversations with them just so that you can make it in time to drop them at the childminders and then rush off for your train!

After all of that rushing around you arrive at work to rush through your morning to take an hour for yourself for your lunch. You then rush back to the office and rush through your afternoon dealing with office politics and getting through your work load until the clock strikes 5pm and then you rush off back to the childminders and then rush back home.

It's 6pm and by this time you are exhausted Layonie but dinner won't make itself! So you cook dinner, do kids bath time, have your dinner together, homework time, then it's the kids bedtime before finally you can relax in the bath and wind down before you climb into your bed to get as much sleep as possible ready to rush through the same routine again tomorrow!

Life as a single full time working mum!

It's not easy, sometimes you just want to give up, give in, forget what society dictates and be a full time mum again! But you know that that won't get you to where you need to go, to make the contacts that you need to make, to get you to reach the aspirations that you have so deep inside for your future, for you and your children, so you wake up again the next day, paint a smile on your face, push your emotions somewhere to the back of your mind, maybe have a little rant to a friend over what'sapp during your commute, just to get it off of your chest and you keep going!

You keep going because you believe that the future is bright, that your dreams and vision for your future will come true!! You believe that your long term plan will benefit the kids in leaps and bounds and will absolutely be worth it in the end. This current lifestyle is only temporary because you know how you want it to all work out! 

You believe in you!!!

Ignore the opinions of colleagues that think they know what's best for you, just smile and nod! You have your own personal plan for your future, keep that close to your chest and stay focused! Your family and friends advice is always welcome and you appreciate that they are trying to help but you don't have to apply it, everyone's desire for the future varies widely and that's ok, you know what's best for you more than they do!

Don't play it small to fit in, play it big, think big and believe even bigger! Continue to work on those projects! Who cares if you embarrass yourself or if it doesn't work out, I'd rather try and fail, than to never try at all!

You've got this honey – keep going – push through – believe and receive! #PersistentlyHappy

Looking forward to seeing you reach your goals!

The power of positive self talk!

To all the mums in the world I salute you – we don't get enough credit for what we do!!!!

Hope this post helps a mum today, your not alone as you can see, I feel the same way too!

We can do this!!!

Layonie Jae x